Question #3

The reason I finally "came out of the broom closet" was because my daughter announced in the middle of her 1st grade class that her mom "is a witch!!".  Thankfully, the aid in her class actually explained to everyone (including the main teacher) that "M's mom is probably a Wiccan.  It's a kind of religion."  Though I wasn't actually a Wiccan, close enough, lol!  So I totally get the concern of having your younger kids "out" you by talking about your religious activities at home.

Asking really young kids to keep secrets about such things is just not always doable, they just tend to say whatever pops into their cute little heads.  And do we actually want to teach our kids to lie about our choices, or that they have to hide it?  Maybe that's something best left to explain to them when they are old enough to make that choice for themselves (I'm sure many people will debate this :O)

My suggestion, while they are so young and you need to keep things private, is to teach them without necessarily putting labels on it.  Teach them, you might say, not to be Pagan, but to have Pagan values:
Teach them about deity by teaching them about mythology.
Teach them to honor nature by teaching about environmentalism, about caring for animals, to be the stewards of the earth.  Take them out for walks and pick up trash. Help them grow a plant. Save up money to donate to an environmental or animal charity
Teach them to care and respect all religions - maybe a lesson here and there about religions of the world, done kid style - maybe once a month you do a different religion, and include an activity that you might do if you were of that religion (like playing dreidel) or having foods from a country that is primarily of that religion).
Teach them to care about people.  Shop together for food to donate to a shelter or food bank.  Volunteer.   Draw pictures and send them to soldiers, the sick or the elderly. (Color-A-Smile is a GREAT and easy way to participate!)
And of course, prayer is the easiest tool there is.  Even if, at first, you don't put a "name" to who you are praying to.  Get in the habit of prayer in the morning, before dinner or maybe at bedtime.  Because, in the end, it's about spirituality more than all the trappings that surround it, right?  A few quiet moments with the kids, counting your blessings and saying thanks.  Now that's something to grow on.

And as the kids get older, you can add more and more into the mix, and explain that religion is private and we don't really need to discuss it with other people.  And as they get older still, you can let them make their own choice on whether to be "out" about it or not.